In Loving Memory of Ryan Waterman

(1973-2026)

Remembering Ryan: A Life of Heart and Purpose

Ryan Waterman lived a life of purpose that positively impacted everyone around him. As a mentor, leader, and dear friend, he poured his heart into our mission. To his family, he was a beloved son, husband, father, and brother. To all of us, he was a hero whose legacy will continue to shape lives for generations. He will be remembered for his warm smile, keen intellect, dry wit, and unwavering compassion.

Pictured here on the right, Ryan’s four (not so) Little Brothers: Marvin, Garrett, Daniel, and Paris. 

A Rare Commitment to Mentorship

Ryan’s journey with Big Brothers Big Sisters began in 1996. Over three decades, he achieved a rare feat: serving as a Big Brother to four different “Littles.” His adult Littles stand as living proof of his enduring belief in the power of one-to-one mentorship.

At our October 2025 Gala, these four men traveled from across the country to honor Ryan with our most prestigious accolade, The Big Champion Award. In a moving tribute, they described Ryan as their “life-saving GPS,” sharing how he taught them that “goodness has no color” and provided a blueprint for manhood centered on goals, patience, and presence.

Leadership and Advocacy

Mentorship begins with showing up, and Ryan’s presence was a cornerstone of our agency. A member of our Board of Directors since 2009 and Board Chair from 2022 to 2023, he was a constant source of wisdom and inspiration, always leading by example. Mentorship was a family calling; his wife, Julia, also served as a Big Sister, embodying their shared commitment to the mission of Big Brothers Big Sisters.

Ryan was always creating waves of change, as a:

  • A Voice for Youth: A dedicated advocate, Ryan traveled to Sacramento and Washington, D.C., to represent Big Brothers Big Sisters at Advocacy Days, ensuring the importance of mentorship was heard at the highest levels of government.
  • Change Maker: In honor of our 60th anniversary, Ryan was named a “BBBS Change Maker,” one of sixty individuals recognized for significant contributions to the organization’s growth.
  • Distinguished Legal Career: A leader in environmental and renewable energy law, Ryan was honored by the San Diego Business Journal with the 2024 Leaders of Influence in Law Award and recognized as a Thomson Reuters “Stand-out Lawyer.”

The Ripple of Ryan

Ryan considered his greatest accomplishment to be the connections he built and the opportunities he helped create for children. His passion, leadership, and unwavering belief that every child should reach their full potential were evident in everything he did.

His ripple of impact will continue to serve the children of our community for decades to come. He was the best of us, and a man who will never be forgotten.

Big Brother

 

Ryan understood that the most enduring structures are built on human connection, planting seeds of potential through mentorship that will bloom for generations to come.

Board 

 

Ryan’s leadership as a Board Chair and Board Member was defined by his tireless advocacy; he was a powerful voice for San Diego’s youth, ensuring the ‘ripple’ of the organization’s mission reached the state and national levels.

Family

 

Beyond his professional accolades, Ryan’s most cherished role was as a devoted husband and father, building a home with Julia where the values of service and mentorship were lived out daily as a guiding light for their children.

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Ruth A Dutton Ruth A Dutton wrote on February 14, 2026 at 4:30 pm
I knew Ryan from 1995-1997, when he rented my older brother’s room from my mom and lived with me during my junior and senior year of high school. Ryan had just graduated from Cal Poly, where he studied history and had been in many classes with my brother, Stephen Tootle. When Steve learned Ryan was moving to Visalia to take an internship at Self-Help Enterprises (a nonprofit addressing the need for affordable and safe housing), located in his home town of Visalia, Steve told Ryan he should just rent a room from my mom. I was there when Mom first heard the idea, and she simply asked for Steve’s assessment: would Ryan be safe to live in the house alongside me, a 15-17 year old girl? When my brother unhesitatingly said, “yes!” she knew Ryan’s character must be stellar. Steve then explained, “Ryan is Mr. Dudley Do Right.” We all laughed. But he was right; from the moment we first met him, we felt safe and happy. Ryan felt like a brother to me the whole time, and though I doubt many women could say they discovered the Indigo Girls through a male friend, I have the distinct pleasure to say this, because it was Ryan who first played the album “Nomads, Indians, and Saints” for me— life changing! Music makes you feel seen, and the Indigo Girls discography really supported the next few years for me. Ryan was rarely home because of work and soccer, but when he was there he felt peaceful to be near. My senior year, I had an open-ended assignment that allowed me complete freedom of choice for what I wanted to do in order to display my growth in a “senior project.” I was excited to begin my undergraduate education in just a few months and also a bit scared, wondering if I was ready for “college level writing.” So I decided to challenge myself with the arbitrary but personally significant goal of writing a 20 page paper, and the topic I chose to write on was comparative religion. I cannot tell you how many hours that paper took me, both doing the reading to research and doing the writing and refining. Ryan let me use his desktop Apple computer to type it out and save it, and his printer when it was time to print it. At this time, all of those functions made me really feel official and scholarly. It did so much to help me feel confident as I entered my next phase of studies. He let me work in his room while he was gone, and I’ll never forget those sacred hours spent in his tidy room, Indigo Girls and Tracy Chapman songs on repeat, contemplating the commonalities of the wisdom traditions. Ryan’s wisdom and common sense, his simple respect, encouragement, and kindness really strengthened me. When a light like Ryan transitions from this life, the meaning and significance of his life is felt in the hearts of each one of those whom he touched, and we each naturally compelled to carry his virtues forward from here. I pray for the comfort of Ryan’s family and all those who feel his loss. May you live as he lived and know his kind of joy and contentment within your own heart. With love, ❤️ and bowing in respect and gratitude for who Ryan was, 🕯️ Ruthie
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